The Work Of Being Your Self
Navigating The Five Dynamic Dilemmas Of Life
You may feel yourself
to be a tiny doorway,
but yours is the entryway
for the entire universe
to turn into life.
Fling it open.
Excerpt from Appointment
A poem in The Work Of Being Your Self
What is the universe manifesting through your uniqueness?
Only you can answer the one question that life: asks of you: why are you (your unique self) here (in this unique situation)? It’s a question you must answer anew in each instance.
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Are You Your Self?
“Just be yourself.” This advice, given when someone is facing a challenge or opportunity, advocating that our natural self will win the day, is certainly a vote of confidence, but it is also nearly always useless. The counsel is too vague to be useful. It implies that this magical accomplishment should be easy and effortless and the most natural thing we could do.
Why can't we just be our self?
The problem is that our “natural self” is a mixed bag at best, a blend of empowering and limiting beliefs and experiences and a messy mix of worries and wishes. We have the capacity, and the curse, to shape who we are and define our "self." A human life is a work-in-progress and we define our self most clearly when we face specific dilemmas. This collection of poetry, questions to ponder, and prompts for writing, helps you to navigate five dynamic dilemmas in life that define who you are and compose the life you live. If you truly want to be yourself, this book is a must read and a worthy companion to anyone who wants to live a genuine life and not the life others and the world might dictate.
The book is divided into five sections and each section explores a dichotomy that we must balance in our lives. These are not conflicts you can resolve once and for all, check them off the to-do list, and then lay them to rest. They are dynamic dilemmas: each is like a continuum and there is no one right place to set up as a permanent residence. Each must be renegotiated at different points in life and each may require a different adaptive blend for different moments. The section titles are:
- Safety and Risk
- Head and Heart
- Fight and Flow
- Self and Other
- Here and There
The Work Of Being Your Self will be available on Amazon starting August 1, 2016.
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Includes poetry, questions to ponder, and writing prompts to help you navigate these five dynamic dilemmas and do the often profound and puzzling work of being your Self.
Click here for sample poems from my poetry blog
The structure of the book reflects the title: it is intended as a workbook. No one can substitute for you when it comes to living your own life and only you can do the difficult and often puzzling work of being yourself. Avoid the work at the risk of living at the whim of the world and ending your life with the top regret expressed by the dying according to Nurse Bronnie Ware: “I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” This is not new. Over 2500 years ago, Socrates said it another way: “The unexamined life is not worth living.”