Being Present

Being Present

Science is now pretty clear that we do not operate on the world directly, at least not consciously.  We live in a world of our own making by constructing the view we have of life, the world, and what is in it. Being present is a discipline, a practice, and it takes effort to learn how to maintain presence in the world. Here's a simple technique to be more present in life.

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Your Love

Your Love

You are absolutely unique. There never has been, nor ever will be another you. Your unique genetic make-up along with every single experience of your lifetime, each from the unique viewpoint of time and space that only you occupy, combine to make up a singular and peculiar personal landscape that is uniquely yours. Do you believe that you, in your uniqueness, are lovable?

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The Myth of Self-Mastery

The Myth of Self-Mastery

It is often said that the one thing you can control is yourself. Actually, this may be an exaggeration that promotes the illusory goal of self-mastery. I suggest changing the focus from self-mastery to self-mystery. Self-mastery implies a relationship of dominance over oneself in which we batter or coax our “self” into submission.  Self-mystery opens us to a genuine relationship with our Self, one in which we are never alone and can co-create an amazing life.

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Who Are You?

Who Are You?

Who are you? What if your “self” was only a set of altered memories, a mishmash of beliefs and values, a collection of filtered perceptions curated out of a much, much greater whole? In this view, what we consider as our “self” is a deeply ingrained habit, or more precisely, a collection of habitual ways of perceiving, thinking, feeling, acting and responding. You could say we are "self-addicted?" This makes me wonder who I might become if if I broke my addiction to my current "self?"

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